It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is
(via rohie)
when the world considers you an ugly woman it really shapes the way everyone, including women, interact with you down to even the tiniest interaction and it feels so fucking hopeless to see how people prettier than you are treated and the…the difference in behavior is often so VISIBLE it really hurts like…there’s no hope there’s no hope there’s noooo hoooope
(via distantvoices)
Dont talk to me ! I’m mourning all the possible lives I couldve lived and the girl i couldve become .
“I am sometimes (to be candid) bored by general conversation, and usually very much excited by what I am thinking myself. Then you come with your singular gift, and tell me that what I think is The Thing; and my head spins–I feel above the Gods.”— Virginia Woolf, from a letter to Clive Bell written written c. May 1908
yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you’ve always done something wrong but you don’t know what it is?
(Source: satanhaus, via lovelyleovenus)